Grounded in Love

Posted by on Jun 10, 2014 in Kathy's Blog | 0 comments

When our daughter was 2 or 3 yrs old, we were on our way to the beach for vacation and it was a long drive. Her uncle was keeping her company in the back seat, singing and making up silly names with her. Playfully, he said, “Are you a knuckle-head?” And she exclaimed loudly, “NO! I’m NOT a knuckle-head! I’m Kylie, and my daddy loves me!” Now, there was a little girl who knew she was loved!

Even as adults we need to feel deeply loved. Knowing we are loved for who we are, “just because” gives us a strong foundation. We need to feel anchored to something strong and deep to be able to be our best selves, in order to give ourselves freely to loving others.

The Apostle Paul understood the primary importance of every believer’s need to feel deeply loved by God. One of the most beautiful and powerful prayers in all of Scripture is found in Ephesians 3:14-19:

“For this reason I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, from whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man, that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height – to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God”.

What does it mean for Christians to be rooted and grounded in love? It means we know God’s love not just in our heads, but in our hearts, deep in our spirits. We feel confident in His love for us, we feel strengthened by His love, we are overwhelmed by the magnitude of His love, and we are grateful for His love. His love fills us, His love delights us, His love changes us!

But what if you don’t feel His love, what can you do?

I would encourage you to think back to when you were a child. How did you feel loved by a parent or grandparent? When did you feel loved? When you received a gift or a hug? When you were asked questions about yourself? What helps you feel loved now? What things have caused you to feel unloved? Your answers to these questions will give you clues as to why you may be blocked in sensing God’s love for you.

And if you had a painful childhood and didn’t feel very loved, God especially wants you to know deep in your spirit that His love for you is fierce and strong, persistent and unwavering. He wants so badly for you to come to Him, to taste and see that He is good and kind, full of compassion and patient with us. He is NOT like the sinful parents we all had. His love isn’t tainted by any sin! His love is pure and perfect.

But because God so values relationships, it usually requires the help of someone else to help unravel the tangle of wounds and lies and emotional confusion that surrounds the inability to feel God’s love.

One thing that has been helpful to me and many others is spending a few minutes each morning sitting quietly with the Lord and asking Him to show you His love for you. Imagine yourself as a child sitting in God’s lap and asking Him to hug you. Tell Him what you’re afraid of, or what’s troubling you. Or just sit quietly in His embrace. If you can do this, even for just a few minutes, you’ll probably be surprised at what the experience is like for you. Try it!